I have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day.

Don’t get me wrong; I love the chocolate and taking a whole day to celebrate people we love. However, I’ve always wished I could spend it with someone special, just once!! (Been single on V Day for 22 years strong people)


This time of year always gets me thinking about the person I’m going to spend the rest of my life with (shout out to my future husband) and as I was going through my list of qualities I want in a guy, “being pursued” stuck out and touched a nerve in my heart I’ve never noticed before.


In my (very small, short lived) experience with guys it’s frustrating because generally, I feel like I’m putting in way more effort than them. I initiate the conversation, I propose the date idea, I’m the one to have the courage to pick up the dang phone and call instead of texting all the time!

Essentially, if I were to do nothing, the relationship would not exist. Anyone else? Now I know times are changing and it’s okay for the girl to initiate sometimes, but there’s a difference between a healthy 2 sided relationship and a girl taking things into her own hands, chasing boys down because she doesn’t trust God has it under control and has a good man for her.


I’ve found myself in that second scenario numerous times and every time am left still single, frustrated and wondering, “What is wrong with me??”

As I was processing this “desire to be pursued” in the car the other day, I heard God whisper, “I will always pursue you”, and it was then that it hit me that no matter if I’m never pursued by a single man, or person for that matter, for the rest of my life, I will still be pursued by God and be filled with a fullness that no human affection or love could ever satisfy. WOW.


Boy did that change my perspective and give me a little peace about having to find “the one” RIGHT NOW in time for Valentine’s Day.

If I can encourage any ladies out there, relax and remember that God is in control. He has someone amazing for you that will pursue you and treat you like you deserve.


Stop trying to make it all work and leave the pursuing up to God and the men. The only thing you should be pursuing is your dreams.

If you were worth dying for, you are worth waiting for so make those boys work for it and wait for the one with the courage to pursue.

If you were worth dying for, you are worth waiting for.

Like my god father always tells me, “Don’t put yourself on the Nordstrom Rack, they pay full price.”

I don’t know if any guys read my blog, but if you’re a dude, hey, thanks for being here. I pray that you find the courage to pursue a woman and make her feel loved like Jesus loves us.


More importantly, I pray that you would go deeper in your relationship with God and become a father who can raise more God fearing men who pursue and honor women.

Moral of the story: Whether you’re single, dating, divorced or been married for 55 years, never forget that if our human counterparts fail to pursue us, we have a Father who will never stop pursuing us.


If you know of someone who could benefit from reading this blog, do me a favor and share it with them today and tell them how much you love them. I love each and every one of you so much and am so thankful to be doing life with you. Happy *almost* Valentines Day.

Praying for a faith that never fails,

xx Nicole #DoStuff

“For thus says the Lord God, “Behold, I Myself will search for My sheep and seek them out.” -Ezekiel 34:11

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  1. Grandma Di says:

    Love it when I take time to read your blog. Always inspirational. Grandma Di

  2. Madison says:

    I love love love this post! It inspired my latest post. Thank you for being so relatable.

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